Therapy for perfectionism in San Francisco, Pacifica and across California
You are worthy.
Perfectionism sets impossibly high standards and expects you to meet them every. damn. time.
Does perfectionism get in the way of you living the life you want?
Perfectionism can be compared to trying to climb a mountain with a heavy backpack on your shoulders - it’s arduous, demanding, and often leaves you feeling like you are falling short of the summit.
Perfectionism is that inner critical voice relentlessly insisting, “Good just won’t cut it.”
Please know, a desire to achieve is healthy. However, a desire or need to always be “perfect” is not so much about striving to be your best, but rather tied to a belief that perfection will protect you from criticism, rejection, or feeling less worthy.
Perfectionism can greatly diminish your self-esteem, enjoyment of life, and sense of peace as it leads to increased levels of stress, fear of judgment, or worries of inadequacy.
“Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it’s about earning approval and acceptance.”
– Brene Brown
How therapy for perfectionism works
It is possible to break free from the tyranny of perfectionism.
Together, we will identify the beliefs behind your perfectionistic tendencies and the impact of perfectionism in your life. With gentleness and compassion, as perfectionism is often rooted in shame, we will begin to unpack these beliefs and gain a deeper understanding of what and who influenced you to develop these unattainable standards. Perfectionism is often a protective response to childhood experiences. As it feels safe to do so, and with self-compassion, we will begin to reframe unhelpful thoughts and develop more adaptive beliefs about ourselves and our abilities.
Unlearning perfectionism will empower you to live more authentically and compassionately. You will learn to set boundaries, develop healthier coping strategies, and accept “good enough.” You will come to understand that your self-worth is not contingent on external achievements, but rather living in alignment with your values.
Therapy for perfectionism can help you…
break free from the cycle of unrealistic expections and self-criticism
cultivate greater self-acceptance and self-compassion
become more resilient when faced with challenges or setbacks
accept that mistakes and flaws are a natural part of being human
Frequently asked questions about therapy for perfectionism
FAQs
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In therapy, a safe and compassionate relationship will allow for the exploration of how perfectionism and shame operate in your life. Time spent reframing beliefs, cultivating self compassion, and increasing self acceptance will result in you creating a life where you can flourish. Learn more.
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You may struggle with perfectionism if you set extremely high standards for yourself, are overly self critical, or feel you are never good enough despite your achievements. Learn more.
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The first step is to request a free 20-minute consultation. On this call you can ask any questions you might have about the work that I do or the work we will do together. If you feel we are a good fit we will set up our first appointment together. I have inperson sessions in SanFrancisco and Pacifica as well ae online session throughout California. Learn more.